Solicitors can be vague and often use code for happy ending massages. They don’t want to get caught by the authorities for the illegal act of solicitation, so they bait the therapist seeing if they will go for it. Unfortunately, sometimes the code goes over the head of the well-meaning therapist and they are faced with a solicitor on their table. Know what to look for and how to avoid this awkward and potentially dangerous situation.
Massage therapists, if you have a brand new client that is looking to book an appointment with you and complains of doing “the splits”, run, do not walk away from this client. Saying that they did “the splits” is a red flag and is their way or requesting groin work. The story usually goes like this, “I slipped on some ice and did ‘the splits’. I would like to come in for a massage and get groin work.” It may happen while they were “riding their bike” too. Sure, a pulled groin is within our scope, but this approach from a *new* client screams happy ending.
Now, if you have an established client, like Peggy who works at the post office, who has been your client for a few years and she complains of slipping on the ice and doing “the splits”, she is probably not looking for a happy ending.
Use Your Gut
Use your gut and instincts. If it is a new client, they are leading with “the splits” and your instincts say run, do not book. Are there other red flags present? If you are unsure, screen the client further. Not sure how to screen a client? [GO HERE]
Legitimate, well-meaning massage clients will typically just book a massage. They do not tell you why they are coming in until they get to your office. Why – because they just want a massage and know they are going to get that. Solicitors will use code words and behaviors because they are baiting the therapist to make sure they are going to get a happy ending. After all, that is what they are looking for. If you do not see the signs that they are putting out – and book that client – the client figures they are going to get a happy ending because you have consented to their requests. Sometimes the requests are so vague, they go over the head of a well-meaning therapist. If you want a complete list of red flags and how to shut down sexual solicitors, take the Respect Massage E-Course.
Are you here looking for code so you can ask for a happy ending?
If you are a client looking for code for happy ending massages and have stumbled across this article and now you are thinking, Sweet! Now I know how to get my happy ending! Yes, you do, and it is not from a massage therapist with the Respect Massage logo on their website, social media, or in their front door.
The logo is our way of saying, “No Happy Endings Here”. That way, you don’t have to waste your time and ours by calling and texting massage therapists using code. If you see the logo, move on.
The Logo Works.
I get messages all the time from therapists telling me that since they have put the logo up on their webpage, social, and elsewhere – that they no longer have a problem with solicitors. Not sure what to write on your website next to the logo?
Massage therapists that are members of Respect Massage hold themselves to the highest standards of an ethical, boundary-driven practice. Respect Massage members have a zero-tolerance policy for solicitations of any kind. Jokes, innuendo, and inappropriate requests are taken seriously and will result in the swift termination of the session. When choosing a practice displaying the Respect Massage logo, you can have confidence in the safety and professionalism you will experience as a client.
Share this link and information with other massage therapists you know. We can shut down sexual solicitations if we stand together and know what to look for.
Stay safe therapists,
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